Thursday is for Thinkers: How to Love a Loved One with Mental Illness | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer

Ed StetzerHeather Palacios and her husband Raul share about mental illness in their marriage and how Raul has loved Heather faithfully throughout their marriage. | Ed Stetzer

The following is a guest post by Heather (and Raul) Palacios. Heather has stopped by for a guest post before, and I find her words on living with mental illness to be helpful and encouraging. I hope her post today encourages you, especially if you’re faithfully loving a family member with a mental illness.

When Raul watched me walk down the aisle on February 6, 1999, he knew it was the beginning of a new journey. However, he had no idea it wouldn’t be an easy one. On July 30, 2000, less than two years married, he would find me in a parking lot, inebriated and in the middle of a suicide. The two years that ensued would require tireless hours of counseling, doctor visits, medication tweaks and lifestyle adjustments to get us restored and moving forward again.

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3 Responses to Thursday is for Thinkers: How to Love a Loved One with Mental Illness | The Exchange | A Blog by Ed Stetzer

  1. In the summer of 1974 I met with the chairman of the Psychology Dept. of North Carolina State University to discuss with him what I had found in my six years of research with reference to mental sanity and insanity as it related to Christian ideas (biblical) as they were implemented and influenced human behavior. The chairman was quite interested, saying, “I am doing research in that area right now (I think he mean the influence of ideas on human behavior). I want you to come and do your M.A. and Ph.D. under me.” I later said to my wife, “I don’t think so. All I want to do is to preach.” She responded with her usual perceptive wisdom, “You will be sorry,” and she was right. I was. About 11 years later I ran into a problem of five cases of incest and, feeling I had to have more training, I enrolled in Liberty University’s new distance learning program for the M.A. in Counseling, one of the hardest degrees I ever earned. In any case, my take on the matter at hand was that ideas poorly understood and/or wrongly held could be an explanation for mental insanity, whereas ideas rightly perceived and held provided the mental framework for maturity and sanity. The interesting thing for me in my research was that biblical truths are usually two-sided and apparently contradictory for a purpose, that is, the two sides or poles create a tension in the mind which enables one to be balanced, flexible, creative, constant, and magnetic, God’s best subliminal advertisement, a mature believer. The latter explains why churches have believers who are attractive assets, encouraging to other believers, cheerful in demeanor, humble servants of Christ. I might be wrong, but I think this two-sidedness is a needed perspective that will enable us to face the unexpected of the future. Analysis won’t work with anomalies. Only the synthetical approach (the one that accepts two sides as true) which can deal with the rule and the anomalies.

  2. Christiane Smith says:

    music can be a wonderfully effective therapy for the elderly with mental problems . . . take a look:

  3. Music is always helpful. EDM is an effective treatment for PTSD so I understand

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